GHOSTS OF GIRLFRIENDS PAST
A funny, morally minded romance weighed down by sexual content.
Should You Watch It?
This is a mixed bag. The film has a strong structure, witty lines with timely deliveries, and good acting from Matthew McConaughey and Jennifer Garner. Its central message—that love, forgiveness, commitment, and marriage are worth the risk of being hurt—has real moral strength.
But the movie surrounds that message with abundant sexual references, crude material, foul language, alcohol use, and light occult and pagan elements. Its treatment of premarital sex is especially troubling because the film does not ultimately rebuke it. The positive ending is therefore seriously compromised.
Adults who can weigh those concerns may find some entertainment and worthwhile ideas here. For a family movie night, however, choose something else. The practical answer is to wait for home, and even then reserve it for discerning adults.
The Story
NO SPOILERS — WE KEEP THE SURPRISESConnor Mead is a successful celebrity photographer and handsome playboy who wants to live and make love freely, without strings attached. He learned this outlook from his hard-partying Uncle Wayne.
When Connor’s cynical attacks on love and marriage threaten his brother’s wedding festivities, he receives a shocking visit from his late uncle. Three ghosts of past, present, and future girlfriends then take Connor on a journey through his relationships—and toward a new understanding of love.
Is It Any Good?
Three stars means this is somewhat entertaining and competently made, but seriously marred by its content and some production choices. The movie has excellent production values, a strong overall storyline, witty lines with timely deliveries, and good acting from Matthew McConaughey and Jennifer Garner.
The ghost of the present is actually Connor’s living assistant, who has never been his girlfriend, creating an illogical and strange spiritual element. The film also handles its moral turnaround unevenly. Its redemptive message is commendable, but the sexual material ultimately overshadows it.
The Worldview
The film begins with a strong pagan and party-centered outlook through Connor’s belief in casual sex, emotional detachment, and a life without commitment. Occult elements appear when ghosts and spirits visit him, while a minor character refers to karma, a false religious concept. The movie also presents Uncle Wayne as continuing his carousing after death without showing eternal consequences for his earthly life.
Against this, the film strongly affirms marriage and the value of love. Connor comes to say that love brings forgiveness, that caring more about people brings true happiness, and that love means giving without expecting anything in return. These ideas contain Christian elements, but Connor’s redemption remains devoid of God. The film also leaves room for premarital sex rather than clearly rejecting it.
The movie’s central longing is for love that is worth the risk of pain. Scripture gives that longing a deeper foundation: “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant” (1 Corinthians 13:4).
The Content Guide
The specifics — spoilers included by nature — so you can judge for your own family.
Content Summary
Strong mixed pagan worldview with main character living life of a playboy and partier, which eventually changes, but there are other characters who share this view and continue to practice it, mixed with a strong moral, Christian worldview with a positive emphasis on marriage and main character states that love is giving without expecting anything in return, happiness comes from caring more about people, forgiveness is a result of love, and even though there is a risk of getting hurt by loving someone, it is ultimately worth it, plus main character says “thank God” three times and occult elements where ghost appears to man telling him not to waste his life and ghosts of dead people and spirits appear to main character, a minor character makes a reference to the false religious concept of karma, and some homosexual references and jokes; 14 obscenities (no “F” words) and 10 profanities (mostly “oh, God” and 1 “GD”); some comic violence includes woman slams man’s head into steering wheel, woman slaps man, car crashes through glass, man crashes car in snow embankment, man gets punched in the face; strong sexual content includes abundant sexual references and material including women in skimpy lingerie pose for photo, women in revealing, practically transparent underwear, woman poses for photo in sexy underwear, woman makes out with man leading to implied fornication, groomsmen are in awe of main character because of his sexual exploits, woman makes threat to cut off man’s private part, man makes reference to orgies, man puts the moves on woman but she sees through his ploy and calls it a cheap sexual innuendo, woman comments that a man is “not really married” unless he has children, man tells man on phone to “screw” himself, man touches woman’s breast thinking she is a ghost, man makes sexual advances on older woman, man asks woman what her stance is on casual sex and woman says she is for it, bridesmaids continually look for opportunities to fornicate during weekend bridal festivities, woman says bridesmaid will only be “partially satisfied” by man, ghost makes sexual moaning sounds in man’s bed, woman makes sexual moaning sounds in man’s bed, middle-school-aged girls say that boy wants to make out with girl using tongue, man says that middle-school-aged boy used to get “excited” (different word actually used in movie) in the boys’ gym shower, brief reference made to STDs, implied fornication between two teenagers, girl compares man’s first sexual experience to Neil Armstrong walking on the moon, implied fornication between man and woman, reference is made to 20 years of foreplay, ghosts of women remind man about his sexual exploits with them, five instances of various crass words used to refer to sex, bridesmaid says she wants to “do” main character, reference made to woman’s sexual encounter with a celebrity, man says he is woman’s designated wedding sex, ghost crudely says women like to do sex, in one scene it’s implied that condoms fall from the sky illustrating the number of times the main character has had to use them, bridesmaids corner main character to get him to do sex with them but when he refuses they set their sights on the groomsmen, older ghost makes sexual advances toward other ghosts (one of which is 16 years old) and makes lewd comments, one lewd, potty humor reference, and four brief homosexual references with a women who has had a sex-change operation; women wear revealing lingerie for photo shoot, women wear transparent underwear and backsides are visible, cleavage depicted; alcohol use depicted with women drinking shots, people drink wine at wedding dinner party, man guzzles one drink after another to drown out the happiness of others around him, ghost drinks alcohol, man drinks in bar and also orders drink for underage boy who tries it, ghost offers to buy man a drink, man desperately steals wedding day wine to drink; one reference to cocaine; and, brief discussion of divorce, man cheated on woman at beginning of their relationship, negative role model acting as parent to young boy, and even though love and marriage are extolled, pre-marital sex is not rebuked.
Talk About It
Questions for the drive home, the dinner table, or the youth group.
Connor believes avoiding love will protect him from pain. What risks are worth taking in love, and how does biblical love differ from self-protection?
1 Corinthians 13:4–7 · 1 John 4:18The film praises forgiveness and caring more about people. What does Jesus teach about forgiving others and serving without demanding repayment?
Matthew 6:14–15 · Luke 6:35The movie extols marriage but does not clearly reject premarital sex. Why does Scripture connect sexual intimacy with marriage?
Genesis 2:24 · Hebrews 13:4Connor learns that happiness comes from caring more, not less. Where do you see that principle in Jesus’ teaching?
Matthew 22:37–39 · Philippians 2:3–4The Final Word
This movie offers a worthwhile message about love, forgiveness, and marriage, along with good acting and witty moments. But its abundant sexual material, foul language, alcohol use, occult elements, and treatment of premarital sex make it a poor family choice. Our answer is WAIT FOR HOME — ADULTS ONLY. For better romantic comedies, see.